It’s not bragging if it’s based on facts.
We’ve seen the headlines. I post about them often. Women and underrepresented groups are still behind – in leadership roles and in pay. When I saw Google’s #IamRemarkable initiative, I jumped at the chance to join the global community as a trained facilitator.
Everyday I see women holding back from sharing their accomplishments, using self-deprecating humor in order to practice gender norms of modesty and selflessness.
And to be clear, I’m no exception. I’ve fallen into this, too. It’s only by diving into this work that I’ve been able to take strides against these cultural constraints that hold us all back.
The truth is, society expects women to celebrate other people’s achievements, but not their own.
Think about that for a second. If you’ve ever found yourself rolling your eyes when you’ve heard another woman sharing something awesome she did…that’s cultural conditioning. We expect one another to be modest. To share the credit always. We fear the backlash and avoid it.
But here’s the rub: research suggests self-promotion (the act of making people aware of your skills and achievements) is absolutely crucial to succeeding at work.
“For example, academics have found that in job interviews, applicants who talk openly and confidently about their achievements are considered more competent than more modest interviewees (even in countries where self-promotion is frowned upon!).
Researchers have also found that, contrary to what we might like to think, good work doesn’t speak for itself. For example, in 2005, researchers found that in team collaborations where it was unclear who contributed what, women were less likely than their male peers to receive credit for the work they did. The lesson? If we want to be recognized for the work we do and advance in our careers, we have to fight through the discomfort and learn how to self-promote.” (Source: #IamRemarkable Literature Review, 2020)
So what can you do? Well, the first thing I suggest is taking one of my #IamRemarkable workshops. They’re free and hosted virtually.
During the workshop:
- I’ll share data and research regarding self-promotion and unconscious bias
- I’ll lead you through an exercise to help you articulate your achievements and practice self-promotion
- We’ll have a discussion and share take home exercises
Right now I have virtual workshops scheduled in January and February.
Join a growing tribe of women who are owning their worth!